Got Their Own Place? Do They Get Their Own Beer?

I participated in an Ambassador Program on behalf of Mom Central Consulting for Anheuser-Busch’s Family Talk About Drinking Program.  I received a promotional item to thank me for my participation.


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We’ve talked about the importance of communication and why you should start talking to you kids about drinking here. Now it’s time to reinforce those discussions.

You’ve spent years raising your kids to be good citizens, teaching them right from wrong; now they are heading out on their own. College, military or just getting their own place, off they go! Are they equipped with the tools they need to make good decisions? Do they know that moving out doesn’t mean they can abandon their responsibilities, family values or expectations from the law?

Hopefully, you’ve set clear expectations; after all, they are still your children. You must have taught them something great, they are moving in the right direction and the choices they have made have helped them along. Guess what? They are still going to need your guidance so keep those lines of communication open. Talk about what’s going on in their lives, make it a routine and download the Family Talk About Drinking Family Guide.

Anhueser-Busch is dedicated to providing parents with proven ways to talk to their children. For more than 20 years, they’ve offered the Family Talk About Drinking program to provide parents with helpful tips on having an open dialog about alcohol with their kids at any age. They’ve also committed more than $1 billion in responsibility programs to prevent underage drinking and drunk driving.

Sound good? Not good enough. They can’t do it alone. They need your help.

As parents, we need to teach our kids to make smart decisions when it comes to alcohol. I’ll be honest, when I got to college, I thought it was a free-for-all, having no parents meant having no rules. Right? Wrong. I learned the hard way, it’s not the way I want the kids in my life to learn.

My nephew is heading off to college in the fall, the best thing I can do for him is share my story. And I have. Sometimes it’s not easy admitting your mistakes, your illegal mistakes. It’s also not easy convincing them that you know best in some circumstances. But you do. Convince them, let them know there are alternatives to drinking, they can still have friends and be popular. They don’t have to participate in activities that they know are against your values, and theirs.

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What do you say when they tell you “everyone does it” and since you did it, it’s okay for them to do it? Not “everyone” does it. And it wasn’t okay when I did it. Share your experiences, tell them how you feel, express your concern for them. Let them know how important this is – to their future.

My biggest fear is that irreversible choices will be made and the future as we’ve planned it will cease to be.


So what did my nephew say? He said he understands, he said he will not drink, he says he has the mental fortitude to resist the pressure he will face. I believe him, he’s a good kid. But can he do it? I hope so. I’ve talked, he’s listened; he’s talked, I’ve listened. It’s what we’re supposed to do. It’s what we have to do.

Although the Anheuser-Busch page provides great resources, like their beer, you have to be 21 to experience it. But you can share the Family Talk About Drinking Facebook page with your kids, there is some great information for everyone!

Do you have anyone going out on their own this year? What kind of conversations have you had with them about drinking?


  1. says

    I am nowhere near that stage, thankfully. My parents always allowed us to have a little wine at the dinner table growing up. As a result, my sisters and I have never felt the need to go all crazy over alcohol during our teen and college years. We knew what it tasted like so we weren’t curious about it.

  2. Robin (Masshole Mommy) says

    Honestly, I think most kids drink long before heading off to college, so the conversation needs to start much earlier.

  3. Shauna says

    Thankfully I won’t have to deal with this for a long, long time… I really have no clue how I will handle this, but hopefully I will come up with something. It is very needed.

  4. says

    I’m going to assume when my kids grow up and move out (wahhh) they will drink underage. I did and it terrifies me thinking about my children doing this because I want them to be safe. The most we can hope for is that they are responsible and pray they make good decisions.

  5. says

    We’re far from this stage but it’s comforting to know that a company like Anhueser-Busch is providing parents with resources. It’s so important to have these conversations with your children.

  6. says

    I really didn’t want my kids drinking when they went to college, but the message I wanted to impress on them most was that IF they did, they should NOT drive or get in a car with anyone who has been drinking, and my mission was a success.

  7. says

    You have to start the conversations well before college. If a kid goes off to school, alone in the world for the first time, without having a solid foundation…still seeing alcohol as a forbidden fruit….it will often end badly. By the time a kid is in the 5th or 6th grade, you should be able to have constructive dialogue.

  8. Ann Bacciaglia says

    It is so important to be open with your teens and talk about drinking. I have a 16 and 19 year old and we have an open line of communication about drinking. I find it is the kids that do not talk to their parents that end up getting into trouble.

  9. says

    Such a tough topic for a parent (and the child) to tackle. My son is in the Marines, I talk to him about underage drinking all the time and hope he hears me. It is very scary, and at that age these young adults are so immature, and still making decisions to last a lifetime.

  10. says

    Such a serious and important discussion. I’m glad your nephew has talked with you about it. I hope I can communicate with my kids all the way though HS so they can make good decisions when they leave the house. So scary.

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